conSensuality - with Michael Dresser

Dan & Ian’s story

gay couples communication

Dan and Ian feared their desires in the bedroom were mis-matched. Read what my conSensuality touch and intimacy coaching offered them

As with many gay couples, the intensity of sexual and emotional exploration at the start of Dan and Ian’s relationship meant that for the first few years communication never seemed to be an issue.

But as the honeymoon period wore off, they started to find themselves increasingly at odds when it came to giving and receiving in the bedroom.

Dan tended to take charge, and do things for his partner he thought would give Ian pleasure. But even though Ian liked being at the centre of his partner’s attention, he often found himself going along with activities he didn’t really enjoy, because he wanted to please Dan.

Sex regularly ended in disappointment and frustration, with neither of them really getting their needs met.

When they started looking for a gay couples coach they feared it was mis-matched desires that was the problem – it hadn’t occurred to them it might be communication!

Working with me they were able, together, to create a shared language and understanding around giving and receiving, which took into account Dan’s need to be of service, as well as Ian’s desire to be able to choose pleasure for himself – so that a good time could be had by both.

"Michael helped us navigate our own internal pleasure maps and learn what works and what does not work for each of us"

What is conSensuality?

A 1-day interactive learning experience for gay, bi, or curious men, working body to body with me

Hands-on coaching to help you develop your erotic skills and confidence when you’re with another man

Structured, guided space which is lovingly held, and non-judgemental, for you to learn about your desires

Somewhere supported for you to practice intimate touch in whatever way feels safe for you, moment to moment