Michael Dresser - about me
I'm a body-based sex, intimacy and pleasure coach with over a decade of experience working with gay, bi, queer and curious men. Unlike many traditional sex and intimacy coaches my training and experience allows me to offer trauma-informed hands-on learning, which can include the whole body, and has choice and safety as the foundation.
My vision is to enable men to create more honest intimate connection with other men. I support men to build more empowered and enjoyable relationships with touch, pleasure, relating, and physical intimacy. My core values are infused through my work and also my life. When you work with me - whether as an individual, in a couple, or part of a group, this is what you can expect...
Learning
Discovery, growth, understanding, experience
My intention is to help you understand yourself better. I believe we often learn best by experiencing – and that there is something to learn from almost every experience.
Integrity
Honesty, clarity, trustworthy, accountability
I aspire to be a ‘safe pair of hands’ and I take my responsibility for your wellbeing seriously. This means respecting your autonomy, limits and wisdom - as well as trusting my own.
Care
Safety, kindness, attentiveness, supportive
I’m led by you and your needs. I offer a gentle, reliable presence so that all parts of you can feel as welcome, held, and safe as possible.
Permission
Accepting, non-judgmental, shame-free, encouraging
I lead by example. I bring my real self, and genuine curiosity, to help you feel comfortable following your own impulses – no matter what they are.
Grounded
Embodied, mindful, slow, spacious
My work is anchored in principles which are embodied (felt) and mindful (aware). I slow things down so you have capacity to learn more without feeling overwhelmed.
My journey to here...
More than a decade ago I took a huge leap of faith and left a long-term monogamous relationship, and a ‘secure’ gay life in London, to explore myself, and a wider world of experience.
As my sexual and erotic encounters with others increased I quickly realised that the deep connections being created during these – even if only for a few hours – seemed to be having a transformative impact on myself and my partners, often enabling a level of intimacy which felt unexpected, liberating and even healing.
As I became more conscious of the impact I was having by ‘just being me’, and following my instincts, I realised that I wanted to learn to formalise and channel these skills, so that I could more consciously and effectively help others.
Continuing professional development
I have trained, and continue to study, with some of the foremost teachers of embodied sexuality in the world.
My first training was Certified Sexological Bodywork with its founder Joseph Kramer. I have also taken additional trainings with other leading teachers from Sexological Bodywork training schools around the world, including Deej Juventin, Uma Ayelet Furman, Caffyn Jesse, and Katie Sarra.
This led me to discover the Wheel Of Consent which I learned with its creator Dr Betty Martin. It quickly became the foundation stone to my whole professional approach, and I received additional training and mentorship from Betty Martin to become one of the first Certified Wheel Of Consent Workshop facilitators in the world, and eventually one of the first professional teaching faculty for the School Of Consent.
Most recently I have taken Sacred Intimacy training with the Body Electric School, one of the most longstanding embodied sexuality trainings for gay men, with a lineage of over 40 years.
I have also completed trainings in BBTRS (Biodynamic Breathwork Trauma Release System), and TRE (Trauma Release Exercise), as well as studying with some of the most respected embodied movement teachers globally from the fields of 5 Rhythms and Open Floor.
Where I'm based
After spending periods of time in Australia, New Zealand, London and the Scottish Highlands, I now call the south coast of England home.
I offer sessions from my home studio there, in Hastings - which is an easy journey from London.
I also offer some sessions online, as well as some coaching options in most other major UK cities.
Learn more about my different coaching options from the menu above, or click below to book a free Clarity Call if you have questions or want to chat with me about what's possible.