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michael dresser mindful gay sex intimacy coach london edinburgh scotland UK

I’m Michael Dresser, one of the UK's most unique sex and intimacy coaches.

I offer practical, hands-on coaching for men who want to learn, experience and practice body to body with another man.

Working with me is about learning new ways to approach and navigate relating - from your relationship with your own body, to your relationships with others.

Join me down under...

I'm heading to New Zealand and Australia! I’ll be based in Golden Bay, Aotearoa through December 2022 and January 2023, then heading to Sydney and Brisbane during February 2023. If you want to connect with me in any of those places get in touch!

What I can help you with

Desire

Identifying and communicating what you want

Touch

Connecting to sensation and exploring how to feel

Pleasure

Discovering and trusting what you enjoy

Giving & Receiving

Navigating desire, touch and pleasure with another man

How I work

Whether you're an individual or a couple, most in-person sessions with me take the form of a conSensuality tailored Immersive.

Combining incredible one-to-one focus with spaciousness and depth, conSensuality Immersives are a unique opportunity for hands-on learning through experiencing.

Each 6-hour Immersive offers a tailored, guided framework within which you can learn and practice skills for accessing desire, touch and pleasure in the most valuable way for you.

Immersives are structured in a flexible way using 4 dynamics and 3 types of touch.

This enables our work together to be personalised so you can get exactly the learning and experience you need - at the same time creating as much safety as possible.

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What you get

The gift of time, care and attention from another man - free from agenda or expectations.

Access to my experience, expertise and body, to support your expansion into healthier erotic intimacy.

Permission and encouragement to explore your authentic self and desires., without shame or judgement.

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What that looks like

Spacious structure and clear agreements with plenty of reflection time to help integrate your physical learning.

Your pleasure, arousal and sexual expression are as welcome as your thoughts, words and feelings.

Touch may be clothed or unclothed and can include the whole body. You always get to choose.

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Why choose this

You want to change old habits and patterns of sex, intimacy or relating in a way that includes your whole body

You want to practice body to body with another man in a safely held learning container.

You want to explore and learn about your intimate self without the pressure of a hookup or relationship.

Interested? Take your next step...

If you haven't worked with a coach like me before it's completely natural to feel a mix of curiosity, uncertainty and excitement when considering it!

That's why I offer an informal video call of up to 30 minutes - an opportunity to chat with me and ask questions, with no obligation.

Other ways you can work with me

If you're looking for mindful gay sex and intimacy coaching or support with a specific focus, I offer a mix of online and in person options - from a few hours to a few weeks.

These focus on some of the most effective ways I’ve found to support and empower clients. They're dynamic, personalised, and anything but ‘one-size-fits-all’!

Bossy Massage

Experience being touched like you've never experienced it before. A 1-day nurturing touch immersive where your pleasure is the focus and your body is the expert

Pleasure in Yourself

A guided programme to help you (re)discover connection with your own body. Learn simple foundational skills for self-pleasure you never got taught in sex-ed classes

the Joy Of Touch for couples

A simple illuminating practice for couples. Improve your touch and communication so you BOTH get a touch experience you really enjoy

Man to

man

Ask me anything. Chat with me over a cuppa about gay sex, intimacy, relating, pleasure or arousal. Bring your curiosity and questions

I also offer non-erotic coaching for help navigating interactions and relationships with family, friends, partners, even work colleagues: www.wheelofconsent.coach

Why choose mindful sex coaching with me?

michael dresser mindful gay sex coach

When it comes to pleasure and intimacy your body actually already has all the knowledge it needs - I simply help you to access it.

Using body-based principles I work collaboratively with you, giving you tools to help you (re)connect with yourself, and others.

I'm almost unique in the UK in offering hands-on sex and intimacy coaching for gay men which is about experiencing AND learning.

I work with 4 touch dynamics and 3 types of touch, combining years of training with intuitive sensitivity to create spaces with safety built in.

My mindful gay sex and intimacy coaching programmes and personalised Immersives offer a space in which you can be held as safely as possible, and fully seen and heard, without judgement.

I'm based near the Scottish Highlands in the UK, offering sessions there, as well as London, Edinburgh, and online.

If you want to feel good - learn how to feel.

Presence

Learn to notice your desires in each moment

Permission

Believe that what you want matters

Pleasure

Help your body (re)discover how to feel

Learn solo

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Become the expert in your own pleasure. Build connection to your body and desires, and skills for self-pleasure, supported by me online

Learn with me

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Safer spaces to learn and practice new ways of relating, and connecting with pleasure, when you're body to body with another man

Learn with a partner

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Open up new ways of creating mutually satisfying interactions, and learn how to communicate with each other when it comes to pleasure

What is mindful sex coaching?

Mindful gay sex and intimacy coaching can help you with connection to self, confidence with what you want, improved relationships, deeper pleasure, more authentic arousal, better sex... and much more. When it comes to pleasure your journey really is as important as your destination!

Who I work with

You'll see me use the words ‘gay’, ‘man’ and 'male' on this site because they’re common terms many people I work with search for when looking for support around intimacy, touch, pleasure or sex.

And I know all those words can mean very different things for different people - my own relationship with them is not fixed.

I work mainly with people who identify as male in some way, but however you describe yourself, you are welcome here – and I hope I may be able to support you.

Join a unique gathering...

Plans are forming for conSensuality: The Gathering - a conscious touch and intimacy retreat for men. This is a unique opportunity for you to reset your relationship with consent and sensuality in company with an intimate group of like-minded men... are you called to it?

"My work with Michael was transformative.  Michael's great skill lies in his intuitive sense and our work together provided a gateway to a deeper connection in my body / mind"

"I can't imagine having made a better choice with my weekend. Your coaching allowed impressive learning and growth in such a short time"

"Michael is a wonderful facilitator. He creates a safe space so I completely trusted him and could relax ... I benefited immensely from what I learnt and what I felt"

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