What I can help you with
Desire
Identifying and communicating what you want
Touch
Connecting to sensation and exploring how to feel
Pleasure
Discovering and trusting what you enjoy
Giving & Receiving
Navigating desire, touch and pleasure with another man
Two questions.
Infinite possibilities.
They sound simple but working with these two questions opens a doorway to four profound and distinct experiences of interaction, with the potential to give and receive the touch you truly desire.
How I work
Whether you're an individual or a couple, most in-person sessions with me take the form of a conSensuality tailored Immersive.
Combining incredible one-to-one focus with spaciousness and depth, conSensuality Immersives are a unique opportunity for hands-on learning through experiencing.
Each 6-hour Immersive offers a tailored, guided framework within which you can learn and practice skills for accessing desire, touch and pleasure in the most valuable way for you.
Immersives are structured in a flexible way using 4 dynamics and 3 types of touch.
This enables our work together to be personalised so you can get exactly the learning and experience you need - at the same time creating as much safety as possible.
Interested? Take your next step...
If you haven't worked with a coach like me before it's completely natural to feel a mix of curiosity, uncertainty and excitement when considering it!
That's why I offer an informal video call of up to 30 minutes - an opportunity to chat with me and ask questions, with no obligation.
Other ways you can work with me
If you're looking for mindful gay sex and intimacy coaching or support with a specific focus, I offer a mix of online and in person options - from a few hours to a few weeks.
These focus on some of the most effective ways I’ve found to support and empower clients. They're dynamic, personalised, and anything but ‘one-size-fits-all’!
I also offer non-erotic coaching for help navigating interactions and relationships with family, friends, partners, even work colleagues: www.wheelofconsent.coach
Why choose mindful sex coaching with me?

When it comes to pleasure and intimacy your body actually already has all the knowledge it needs - I simply help you to access it.
Using body-based principles I work collaboratively with you, giving you tools to help you (re)connect with yourself, and others.
I'm almost unique in the UK in offering hands-on sex and intimacy coaching for gay men which is about experiencing AND learning.
I work with 4 touch dynamics and 3 types of touch, combining years of training with intuitive sensitivity to create spaces with safety built in.
My mindful gay sex and intimacy coaching programmes and personalised Immersives offer a space in which you can be held as safely as possible, and fully seen and heard, without judgement.
I'm based near the Scottish Highlands in the UK, offering sessions there, as well as London, Edinburgh, and online.
If you want to feel good - learn how to feel.
Presence
Learn to notice your desires in each moment
Permission
Believe that what you want matters
Pleasure
Help your body (re)discover how to feel
Learn solo

Become the expert in your own pleasure. Build connection to your body and desires, and skills for self-pleasure, supported by me online
Learn with me

Safer spaces to learn and practice new ways of relating, and connecting with pleasure, when you're body to body with another man
Learn with a partner

Open up new ways of creating mutually satisfying interactions, and learn how to communicate with each other when it comes to pleasure
What is mindful sex coaching?
Mindful gay sex and intimacy coaching can help you with connection to self, confidence with what you want, improved relationships, deeper pleasure, more authentic arousal, better sex... and much more. When it comes to pleasure your journey really is as important as your destination!
Who I work with
You'll see me use the words ‘gay’, ‘man’ and 'male' on this site because they’re common terms many people I work with search for when looking for support around intimacy, touch, pleasure or sex.
And I know all those words can mean very different things for different people - my own relationship with them is not fixed.
I work mainly with people who identify as male in some way, but however you describe yourself, you are welcome here – and I hope I may be able to support you.
Join a unique gathering...
Plans are forming for conSensuality: The Gathering - a conscious touch and intimacy retreat for men. This is a unique opportunity for you to reset your relationship with consent and sensuality in company with an intimate group of like-minded men... are you called to it?
"My work with Michael was transformative. Michael's great skill lies in his intuitive sense and our work together provided a gateway to a deeper connection in my body / mind"
"I can't imagine having made a better choice with my weekend. Your coaching allowed impressive learning and growth in such a short time"
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