Build your confidence with
Desire
Identifying and following what you want
Touch
Connecting to sensation and exploring how to feel
Pleasure
Discovering and trusting what you enjoy
Communication
Navigating desire, touch and pleasure with another man
Honed over more than a decade of ongoing training and practice, my work is a unique blend of Sexological Bodywork, Wheel Of Consent, and Sacred Intimacy.

I work with 4 touch dynamics and 3 types of touch, combining years of training with intuitive sensitivity to create spaces with safety built in.
I'm based near the Scottish Highlands in the UK, offering sessions there, as well as Edinburgh, Belfast, London and online.
Choose how you want to work with me
I offer 3 different types of session pathway. Choose the one which suits your needs best:

Supported self-study
Online coaching programmes. Focus on building a better relationship with pleasure in your own body

Hands-on personal coaching
In-person immersive days. Focus on learning and practicing new approaches to touch, communication and relating when you’re body to body with another man.

Experiential play
In-person half days. Focus on experiencing and exploring pleasure, connection and closeness in a playful one-to-one space.
Why work with with me?
In-person immersive coaching with me offers a unique opportunity for hands-on learning through experiencing:
Interested? Take your next step...
If you haven't worked with a hands-on gay sex and intimacy coach like me before it's completely natural to feel a mix of curiosity, uncertainty and excitement when considering it!
That's why I offer a free informal video call of up to 30 minutes - it's an opportunity to chat with me and ask questions, with no obligation.
Who do I work with?

If you're single...
I offer a safely held space where you can learn and practice new ways of intimate relating, body to body with me as your practice partner, guide and support.

If you're a couple...
I offer a neutral, guided space where you can learn new ways to communicate and create mutually satisfying interactions with each other.
You'll see me use the words ‘gay’, ‘man’ and 'male' on this site because they’re common terms many people I work with search for when looking for support around intimacy, touch, pleasure or sex.
And I know all those words can mean very different things for different people - my own relationship with them is not fixed.
I work mainly with people who identify as male in some way, but however you describe yourself, you are welcome here – and I hope I may be able to support you.
What is mindful sex coaching?
Mindful gay sex and intimacy coaching is about becoming more present and authentic in your intimate and erotic experiences. I can help you with connection to self, confidence with what you want, improved relationships, deeper pleasure, better sex ... and much more.
"My work with Michael was transformative. Michael's great skill lies in his intuitive sense and our work together provided a gateway to a deeper connection in my body / mind"
"I can't imagine having made a better choice with my weekend. Your coaching allowed impressive learning and growth in such a short time"
If you want to feel good - learn how to feel
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I also offer non-erotic coaching for help navigating interactions and relationships with family, friends, partners, even work colleagues: www.wheelofconsent.coach
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