If you want to feel good - learn how to feel.

I’m Michael Dresser. I offer practical coaching for men who want to learn how to have more authentic and enjoyable physical relating, and intimacy, supported by another man.

Mindful gay sex coaching with me offers safe, gentle and engaging environments for you to learn how to create connection, and have more fun with your body.

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"Working with me is about learning new ways to approach and navigate relationships - from your relationship with your own body, to your relationships with others, via your relationship with touch and pleasure"

Presence

Learn to notice your desires in each moment

Permission

Believe that what you want matters

Pleasure

Help your body (re)discover how to feel

How you can work with me

If you're new to one-to-one in-person coaching with me, there's a simple 3-stage pathway the first time we work together:

Free clarity call of up to 30 minutes. This is a relaxed, no-obligation chance for us to connect online - for you to ask questions and for me to make sure I’m able to offer what you’re looking for.

Introductory 3-hour online coaching session. We’ll put practical foundations in place to create connection with your own body, build our working connection, and prepare for our time in person together. And we’ll discuss in more detail what you want to explore in the intensive.

1-day intensive in person. This is where we get to work together body to body. The day is split into 2 3-hour sessions, with a break in the middle. Each session is gently guided, and personalised to help you maximise your learning and experience, and can include self-touch, one-way, or two-way touch.

Touching for pleasure

The adult-ed college course you never imagined was possible!

If you wanted to up-skill, or retrain, you'd go back to college. Why treat sex and intimacy any differently? Welcome to my core coaching programme for men who want to build a new relationship with intimate giving and receiving.

If you want to revolutionise how you experience touch and pleasure in your life, this programme is for you!

Using hands-on interactive practices developed over several decades, this comprehensive course will give you the skills and confidence to enjoy touch to the full when you're with someone else.

The beauty of this programme is that you don't need to commit to the whole thing upfront. Each level builds on the last and can be taken in stages when you are ready, making it more affordable and easier to access.

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Foundations

The Touching For Pleasure programme starts with this simple 2-session online introduction. Learn 4 foundational approaches to help you improve touch, sensation, and intimacy - and have more mutually satisfying interactions.

Each further level of the programme takes place in person, and offers guided opportunities for hands-on, interactive, clothing optional and erotic touch.

Level 1:

Receiving pleasure

receiving pleasure

Explore and practice 2 ways to get the gift of whatever feels most enjoyable for you. Learn how to take pleasure without taking advantage.

Level 2:

Giving pleasure

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Explore and practice 2 ways to give the gift of pleasure joyfully - no more enduring or feeling obliged. Learn how to bring generosity to your giving.

Level 3:

Pleasure lab

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Bring together all the tools you've learned, in a structured play lab tailored to help you safely deepen your sensual skills for giving and receiving.

More ways you can work with me

If you're looking for mindful gay sex and intimacy coaching or support with a specific focus, I offer a mix of online and in person options:

My Coaching Progammes focus on some of the most effective ways I’ve found to support and empower clients. These are dynamic, multi-session pathways that are anything but ‘one-size-fits-all’!

Discover the benefits of working this way

Tailored Coaching Intensives with me offer a chance to access support which is personalised to you, in a more immersive and concentrated way. I offer these in person and online.

Find out what's involved

I also offer non-erotic coaching for help navigating interactions and relationships with family, friends, partners, even work colleagues.

Discovering

Desire

2 simple sessions to build your connection with what feels good, and what sparks your desire

Pleasure in

YourSelf

A guided programme to help you (re)discover and connect with your own erotic body

the Joy of Touch

for couples

Learn a simple, illuminating practice to improve touch, communication and pleasure for both of you

conSensuality

A unique 1-day intensive to learn about your erotic self, body to body with another man

Tailored

Intensives

Immersive touch-based learning environments which are personalised for you

Life-skills for your love-life

Take your next steps towards a more connected love-life:

This is an informal video call of up to 30 minutes - an opportunity to chat with me and ask questions, with no obligation.
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For individuals

From self-pleasure practice, to interactive erotic learning, whether online or in person, all one-to-one sessions with me are led by your body and your needs.

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For couples

I can work with you both, online or in person, to help you open up new ways of creating mutually satisfying interactions, and learn new ways of communicating.

What is mindful sex coaching?

Mindful gay sex and intimacy coaching can help you with connection to self, confidence with what you want, improved relationships, deeper pleasure, more authentic arousal, better sex... and much more. When it comes to pleasure your journey really is as important as your destination!

Why choose mindful sex coaching with me?

When it comes to pleasure and intimacy your body actually already has all the knowledge it needs - I simply help you to access it.

Using body-based principles I work collaboratively with you, giving you tools to help you (re)connect with yourself, and others.

I'm almost unique in the UK in offering hands-on sex and intimacy coaching for gay men which is about learning and experiencing.

Whether you want to explore self-touch, one-way touch, or two-way touch, I combine years of training with intuitive sensitivity to create spaces with safety built in.

My mindful gay sex and intimacy coaching programmes and tailored intensives offer a space in which you can be held as safely as possible, and fully seen and heard, without judgement.

I'm based near the Scottish Highlands in the UK, offering sessions there, as well as London, Edinburgh, and online.

Who do I work with?

You'll see me use the words ‘gay’, ‘man’ and 'male' on this site because they’re common terms many people I work with search for when looking for support around intimacy, touch, pleasure or sex.

And I know all those words can mean very different things for different people - my own relationship with them is not fixed.

I work mainly with people who identify as male in some way, but however you describe yourself, you are welcome here – and I hope I may be able to support you.

Can I fix your sexual problems?

Many people try to fix their sexual problems by looking through too narrow a lens. I focus on recalibrating, rather than fixing...

"My work with Michael was transformative.  Michael's great skill lies in his intuitive sense and our work together provided a gateway to a deeper connection in my body / mind"

"I can't imagine having made a better choice with my weekend. Your coaching allowed impressive learning and growth in such a short time"

"Michael is a wonderful facilitator. He creates a safe space so I completely trusted him and could relax ... I benefited immensely from what I learnt and what I felt"

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What people say about working with me:

"A calm, safe space to find out more about consent, touch and yourself. I really enjoy Michael's work"

"I feel more embodied in my own exploration of pleasure... and excited to continue to deepen the practice, feeling I have received the tools I need to help"

"I really enjoyed being introduced to this subtle and powerful process that woke up my senses and brought me deeply into my body"

"The Wheel Of Consent transformed my approach to getting my needs for intimacy met"

"I felt safe and permission to be how I needed to. I enjoyed being in a space where everything truly was an invitation"

"A very safe way to explore boundaries and increase my awareness of patterns and unconscious thoughts or pressures. A very warm and nurturing experience"

"100% recommend everyone to do this for improved relationships"

"A powerful, deep learning experience. I appreciate the gentleness of Michael's approach"

"Everyone should do this work... this should be taught in schools"

"I feel freer, more powerful, and more 'optioned' because of the Wheel Of Consent work"

"Michael is a very skillful facilitator who is clear and knowledgeable, and sensitive to the needs of the group"

"I feel I've gained a piercing insight into the complexities of relationships and agreements"

"Exploring the Wheel Of Consent has been a joyful, freeing and creative process. I now feel I have a better sense of what I want, how to communicate that, and how to create more harmonious relationships"

"Michael is a wonderful facilitator. He creates a safe space so I completely trusted him and could relax into the practice. I benefited immensely from what I learned and felt"

"Michael was able to help us navigate our own internal pleasure maps, take risks in a safe space, and experientially learn what works and what does not"

"Michael is a gifted communicator and facilitator. His presence, encouragement and enthusiasm allowed me to gain a deeper, clearer, cleaner 'yes' and 'no'"

"Michael is profoundly respectful in his approach. I felt safe - which helped me to talk about things which normally embarrass me"

"Michael was able to quickly create a safe and comfortable environment, and tailor his suggestions to my needs. I learned a great deal in quite a short time, and experienced an opening up of what had been very shut down!"

"My work with Michael was transformative. Michael's great skill lies in his intuitive sense and our work together provided a gateway to a deeper connection in my mind/body"

"I found myself relaxing deeply into the presence of Michael's holding capacity. His ability to hold sensitively with full awareness and care for what he is doing allowed me to overcome my fears"

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