intiMate

personalised gay intimacy play experiences

Frustrated by hookups as a way to experience intimacy in a safe, meaningful way?

Longing for physical connection with another man where closeness is as important as sex?

Wish you had a companion to help you explore intimacy without shame or judgement?

I'm Michael, your intiMate companion...

intiMate sessions with me are a unique experience - more than coaching, and more than a hookup.

intiMate play experiences with me combine sensual exploration with tenderness, care and consent.

They are a unique opportunity for two men to meet body to body and experience physical intimacy, beyond the standard ‘hookup’ culture.

You bring your desire and curiosity to explore connection.

I bring the gift of my time, attention, and body for you to explore with  - as well as my experience as a lover, companion, and intimacy guide.

Together we create an intimate experience.

What's involved in an intiMate play experience with me?

Each session lasts 4 hours.

We’ll start gently with some talking – getting to know who we are together, what we want together, and what our desires might look like together.

The rest of our time together is unstructured, guided by whatever feels good.

We may spend time together clothed, or naked. We may share through words, or through touch. There may be moments of erotic connection. There may be moments of cuddling and tenderness. And everything in between!

Nothing is required, and there are built-in opportunities to slow down, pause, and discover what we want to explore next together.

Intimacy may not always look or feel the way you might expect it to – I invite you to leave your preconceptions at the door, and explore what could be possible, with me as your companion!

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What this is

  • A chance to explore the possibilities for genuine, nurturing intimacy beyond the narrow parameters of apps and hookups.
  • Touch, talking, playfulness, pleasure, arousal, laughter, tenderness, and body to body exploration are all welcome.
  • Erections, orgasms or ejaculation are welcome but absolutely not required (from either of us). These sessions are an opportunity to explore what pleasure between two men can feel like when there’s no pressure for performance.

What this isn't

  • There’s often an expectation that physical closeness between two male bodies should look a certain way, with scripts about giving and receiving, being a ‘top’ or ‘bottom’, or expectations of how the body should work. Those limitations don't apply here.
  • Although sex and eros might be present in our session, they probably won’t be the focus all the time (if for no other reason than that’s not how male arousal works over 4 hours!)
  • If you’re looking for an escort, or a quick fuck with a happy ending, this is almost certainly not the right session for you.

Frequently asked questions

Why book a session?

These sessions are for anyone who defines as male looking for an opportunity to connect intimately with another man in a way that is spacious, caring, and connected.

I offer something similar to a gay sacred intimate, but in my sessions intimacy is just as important as the erotic.

This is a space we create together where I help you celebrate whoever you want to be, without shame or judgement.

Most of my other sessions have a focus on coaching and learning. intiMate play sessions are more about having fun, and  experiencing yourself, through connection and pleasure with another man (although, to be honest, you’ll probably still learn something!)

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What is a gay sacred intimate, and am I one?

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A gay sacred intimate is sometimes described as a professional who uses his own body to help others access the joy and power of erotic energy. The term was coined in the 1970s by one of my teachers, Joseph Kramer, founder of Sexological Bodywork.

Although I don’t describe myself as a gay sacred intimate, intiMate play sessions with me do offer an opportunity to joyfully explore who you are, and who you want to be, when you’re body to body with another man in a physically intimate way.

What I offer in these experiential sessions is different from coaching, and different from a hookup. It’s a place of safety where you can experience intimacy authentically - with a trustworthy companion and guide to interact with.

"Michael held a gentle, safe and supportive space for us both to explore together. It felt truly nourishing and healing."

Rafael

"Finding Michael has been a wonderful experience ... I've come away from our session feeling the best version of myself."

Ben

"Getting to explore my sensuality in a safe environment isn't something that happens often, and I discovered a lot about myself."

Akram

Want to play with me...?

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Your first step is to book a free Clarity Call with me – this is a chance for us to get a feel for each other, and see whether it’s a good fit.

This Zoom call of up to 30 minutes is a relaxed opportunity to chat about what you’d like to experience, and if I'm the right person to help with that.

Important note: I do not hold sessions at private houses (either yours or mine). Costs and logistics are not negotiable. If what’s offered here doesn’t work for you, then I’m not the right person for you to meet with. Please read my terms and conditions before booking.