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What are the benefits of touch-based sessions?

Touch is essential for well-being, and an important gateway to a better experience of intimacy and sex. Learn about the different ways I use touch in my sessions.

When it comes to intimate and erotic touch many gay men tend to go to the genitals as a starting point.

For a lot of gay guys touch and sex have actually come to mean the same thing.

Yet sensation – perhaps more than any other sense – is actually your body’s way of communicating important information to you.

Touch is fundamental to well-being

Touch isn’t just about sex. Lack of touch can affect your health in many ways, from stress to weight gain. In fact, touch is so essential that babies who do not get enough literally die.

Just 30 seconds of ‘warm touch’ to your skin (this means touch which feels safe, including self-touch) is enough to activate the feelgood hormone oxytocin.

Enough oxytocin triggers the release of dopamine (something most of us more often get from stimulants such as caffeine), and this is ultimately what can enable your body to enter arousal.

Investing in touch is an investment in yourself

Building a healthy relationship with touch is a fundamental step towards a more enjoyable experience of yourself, and well as more connected intimacy and sex.

The reason touch forms such an integral part of my sessions is that when you get to experience touch in way which feels safe for you, it nourishes you, and sends your body the message that you matter.

This is essential self-care – and that’s something many of us don’t do as well as we could!

The importance of whole body touch

A lot of gay sex tends to focus on the genitals and ejaculation, rather than whole body sensation.

Most bodywork, and touch-based therapies tend to completely ignore the genital area. Conventional sex coaching doesn't even include touch!

But would you try to learn the piano by only practicing on half the notes?

In hands-on sessions with me (whether they’re your hands or my hands) the whole body – including the genitals – can be part of the canvas for exploration and learning.

I believe this is the most comprehensive way to learn about your desires and what feels good in your body when it comes to intimacy, arousal and sex.

Read more about the 3 different ways I use touch in my sessions:

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Why choose self-touch sessions?

How much do you find pleasure in yourself when you’re pleasuring yourself? Learn how self-touch plays an integral part in developing a more mindful approach to sex and intimacy.

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Why choose one-way touch sessions?

Some of the deepest experiences of pleasure and learning can happen when there’s no need to reciprocate – one-way touch sessions are a great way to facilitate this.

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Why choose two-way touch sessions?

Discover how interactive touch sessions can help you expand your capacity for physical relating and learn skills for more satisfying mutual touch experiences.

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