embodied gay sex intimacy coaching michael dresser

What do I include in an embodied gay sex coaching session?

Sessions with me can include elements of Sexological Bodywork, Wheel Of Consent, and Sacred Intimacy. Learn more about these 3 ways of working

Honed over more than a decade of ongoing training and practice, I offer embodied gay sex and intimacy coaching which is a unique blend of Sexological Bodywork, Wheel Of Consent, and Sacred Intimacy.

Whether the focus of your session with me is learning or experiential, I’ll usually combine elements of one or more of these ways of working to create a tailored experience for you which most aligns with your intention for our time together.

These three modalities of embodied gay sex and intimacy coaching share a certain amount of common lineage and intention, and at the heart of all of them is a focus on presence in the moment, care and attention.

SEXOLOGICAL BODYWORK WHEEL OF CONSENT SACRED INTIMACY

SEXOLOGICAL BODYWORK

What is it: Sexological Bodywork® is a body-based way of learning that supports you to develop and deepen your erotic wellbeing. At its core is a belief that sexual health, erotic education, and pleasure are not only basic human rights, but basic human requirements for wellbeing.

What does it offer: Sexological Bodywork encompasses the whole somatic experience – mind, body, emotion and spirit. Unlike most talk-based coaching it offers the possibility for touch; unlike most massage or therapeutic physical therapy it can include the possibility for genital touch.

Why it’s helpful: Working this way supports you to explore arousal and embodied states of pleasure in a context which is free from cultural limitations or habitual patterns. In this way your body can become an incredible source of wisdom, and freedom.

How I use it: I use the foundations of breath, movement, sound, touch and placement of attention to help bring awareness to, and expansion of, pleasure in the body.

Note: because one of the core protocols of Sexological Bodywork is strictly one-way touch (practitioner to client) I generally no longer categorise my sessions as Sexological Bodywork sessions, but its principles of client-led empowerment and sensate education remain key to my approach.

WHEEL OF CONSENT

What is it: So much more than ‘just’ about consent, the Wheel Of Consent® is a simple, powerful tool to help you navigate your relationships with clarity and choice. Put simply, it’s the life-skill you’ve wished you always had.

What does it offer: A practical, body-based approach for navigating interactions (both touch, and non-touch), and a way to distinguish between who is giving, who is receiving and how those experiences feel different.

Why it’s helpful: It’s a straightforward way to create more choice and clarity in relationships and relating. It can help you build skills for better connection with your desires, stronger boundaries, clearer communication, and improve your relationship with touch.

How do I use it: The Wheel Of Consent is the foundation stone of all my relational session work. It helps create a safer container where you can connect with what you want - and don’t want - when you’re interacting with another body, and learn how to give voice to that.

SACRED INTIMACY

What is it: A sacred intimate is sometimes described as a professional who uses their own body to help others access the joy and power of erotic energy. The term was coined in the 1970s by Joseph Kramer, (who later founded Sexological Bodywork), but it has roots much older than that.

What does it offer: The opportunity for playfulness and healing through physical intimacy and erotic expression. Sessions create a boundaried or ritual space where you can leave the world outside and have someone attend to your desires and pleasure in a way that is connected and meaningful.

Why it’s helpful: With a focus more on experiencing than learning, sacred intimacy sessions often encourage a perspective of sexual transformation towards wholeness, not trying to fix problems but encouraging and expanding sexual joy.

How do I use it: Although I tend not to describe myself as a sacred intimate, many of my in-person sessions do offer an opportunity to joyfully explore who you are, and who you want to be, when you’re body to body with another man in a physically intimate way. In these sessions I bring my body in service to your needs, I bring caring presence through touch, and I bring permission for interactive exploration.

Read more about Sacred Intimacy (Don Shewey’s excellent essay on his experiences as a sacred intimate)

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