Bossy Massage

Experience being touched like you’ve never experienced it before. A 1-day nurturing touch Immersive where your pleasure is the focus, and your body is the expert

How many times have you had a massage, or received touch which was meant to be for your benefit - but wasn't quite what you wanted?

Most massages – from remedial massage, to gay tantra massage - are about someone else deciding how you should be touched.

This is different.

The Bossy Massage is a touch experience like no other – where you get to reclaim touch for yourself, so your body gets EXACTLY the touch it wants, every single moment.

Having someone else put your desires first – without judgement, or shame - and dedicate time and care to giving you only the touch YOU choose, can be a profound and liberating experience.

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Is it for you?

This is for you if you:

  • Want to replenish yourself and be nourished with full body touch
  • Wish you could receive the touch your body most wants, with no need to reciprocate
  • Would like to get better at following your desires, and asking for what you want
  • Have tried gay tantra or erotic massage and are curious to experience an alternative, equally focused on pleasure, but tailored specifically to YOUR body and desires.

How does it work?

This is a space for you to receive touch exactly the way you choose – without needing to please anyone else in return.

The process is spacious, over a full day - allowing us to create a space of safety and permission so you can truly connect with your authentic desires every step of the way – no matter what they are.

We’ll introduce touch gently, in a series of deepening practices, with lots of opportunity for you to play and experiment with what feels most pleasurable for you. You can stop or change how you’re being touched at any point, and you’ll never have to be touched in any way you don’t want!

There's space built in for you to integrate your experiences, reflect, and share about what you want more of, what you want less of, and what else you want to try.

Bring your dreams for being pleasured, and your sense of adventure; I’ll be there to help and support you explore!

Bossy Massage sessions with me are based on a practice developed by Dr Betty Martin with the Wheel Of Consent

What kind of touch is possible?

Especially when it comes to erotic touch it’s common to think you should be aiming for an interactive, mutual experience. But keeping the focus just on your own body opens up possibilities for much deeper understanding of your own pleasure.

 

We’ll start the day gently, bringing awareness to what feels good in your body when the focus of touch isn’t erotic.

Over the course of our time together we’ll expand the possibilities as we dive deeper into your desires for receiving touch.

In a final 90-minute ‘ultimate bossy massage’ you choose how much of your body is included, and how much of mine you want to receive touch from.

Throughout the day your arousal is welcome but is never a requirement for pleasure.

Instead of surrendering to what someone else is doing - open up to what your own body desires

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"A very warm and nurturing experience … a subtle and powerful process that woke up my senses and brought me deeply into my body"

Gavin, Scotland

Experience it with me

The next level up from a gay tantra or erotic massage (where someone else decides how you get touched): the Bossy Massage is a unique experience. Sink into the exquisite bliss of someone dedicating time, and care, to pleasuring your body in the way YOU choose.

6 hours, in person with me

COST: £390

Price shown is to work with me at my home base in Scotland. To work in Edinburgh or London please add an extra £160.

Take your next step:

If you're interested the next step is to book a free, no-obligation Clarity Call with me. This is an informal Zoom call of up to 30 minutes. It's your opportunity to ask any questions you might have, and for me to make sure I'm able to offer what you're looking for.

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