For much of his 20s sex for Anders was inextricably linked with partying. Using drugs during sex (commonly known as chemsex) initially helped him feel sexually confident, but increasingly he found the sex he was having was reckless and left him feeling loneliness and despair.

He took action to cut the drugs out of his life. Yet this left him with anxiety: could he still have sex without the drugs, and would sex lead him back to drugs?

He was so fearful that he avoided sex altogether for a long time. But he also knew that the sense of connection he got from physical intimacy was going to be an important part of finding himself again.

Working with me, Anders was able to explore safety with someone who understood his fears, in a drug-free environment, helping him to to re-establish the possibility for gay intimacy after chemsex.

Being able slow things right down, in a space without judgement, pressure, or expectation, helped Anders engage with his complicated relationship with touch and pleasure, so he could start re-building his connection with his own erotic body.