conSensuality - with Michael Dresser

Anders’ story

gay intimacy after chemsex touch pleasure coaching

Anders wanted to rediscover gay intimacy after chemsex. Read what conSensuality touch and intimacy coaching with me was able to offer him...

For much of his 20s sex for Anders was inextricably linked with partying. Using drugs during sex (commonly known as chemsex) initially helped him feel sexually confident, but increasingly he found the sex he was having was reckless and left him feeling loneliness and despair.

He took action to cut the drugs out of his life. Yet this left him with anxiety: could he still have sex without the drugs, and would sex lead him back to drugs?

He was so fearful that he avoided sex altogether for a long time. But he also knew that the sense of connection he got from physical intimacy was going to be an important part of finding himself again.

Working with me, Anders was able to explore safety with someone who understood his fears, in a drug-free environment, helping him to to re-establish the possibility for gay intimacy after chemsex.

Being able slow things right down, in a space without judgement, pressure, or expectation, helped Anders engage with his complicated relationship with touch and pleasure, so he could start re-building his connection with his own erotic body.

"The space Michael held, was one where non-judgement and healing were offered to a profoundly intimate and complex area of experience"

What is conSensuality?

A 1.5-day interactive learning experience for gay, or gay-curious men, working one-to-one with me

Hands-on coaching to help you develop your erotic skills and confidence when you’re with another man

Structured, guided space which is lovingly held, and non-judgemental, for you to learn about your desires

Somewhere supported for you to practice intimate touch in whatever way feels safe for you, moment to moment