It’s not one size fits all.

Although there is a framework to each session, what happens within it is flexible - you get to tell me what works and what doesn’t - if I suggest doing something that doesn’t sound appealing you can say so, and we’ll do something different.

If we’re in a touch practice and you want my hand in a different place you can tell me that - it’s not just me guessing what you might like or doing a standard set of moves.

If you like something you can ask for more of it; if you don’t like something you can tell me to stop or ask for something different.

And this is not just lip service – creating genuine choice for you, and helping you figure out what you want, is built into the DNA of every session.

No - that’s the point!

I’m there to help you to discover things. Sometimes that might feel easy or exciting, sometimes a bit more clunky and frustrating.

But whether we’re doing something completely new for you, or something we’ve tried before, I’ll never have any expectations about how it’s going to go, and I’ll never have any judgements about whatever you experience.

Often when we start working together we’ll do more talking than anything else.

It can take time to build trust and safety so it’s never about diving in at the deep end straight away.

We’ll always work at your pace – and if what’s most supportive for you is to talk then we can do that until you’re ready to move on.

There are plenty of practical ways we can start building your skills without touching each other.

Coaching sessions with me are first and foremost a learning space – so the focus is always on what will best support the learning intentions you are bringing.

As part of this we may sometimes step into body-based practices or experiences which can (but don’t have to) include nakedness, arousal, or sexual/erotic touch.

This kind of hands-on practice will always happen in relatively short, and clearly defined increments. In other words we won’t spend the whole session ‘making out’, or ‘having sex’ (even if some of what we do might resemble that at times, in service to what you want to learn or practice)

The exception to this is my Connect + Play sessions where the focus is more on playful experience, than learning.

When we first start to work together we’ll generally both stay clothed for at least the first few hours of session time - even if your intention is to work unclothed at some point.

We’ll always start all sessions clothed; if nakedness is something you want to include later in the session then that’s definitely possible - but it’s not required!

It’s also flexible: there may be times when you want one or other of us to be naked, at different times. Or it may be that what you want to explore doesn’t need either of us to be naked.