conSensuality

hands-on gay sex and intimacy coaching for men

Longing to experience more enjoyable gay touch and pleasure, but unsure where to start?

Frustrated by apps and hookups as a way to try and explore your desires in a safe, meaningful way?

Want to learn more about your intimate self beyond the patterns or restrictions of a relationship?

conSensuality = sensual + consenting

Learn to be a better lover. conSensuality coaching with me is a unique practical and guided way to learn about your intimate self body to body with another man.

 

 

Two questions.

Infinite possibilities.

How do you want me to touch you?

How do you want to touch me?

They sound simple but working with these two questions opens a doorway to four profound and distinct experiences of interaction, with the potential to give and receive the touch you truly desire.

What you get

The gift of time, care and attention from another man - free from agenda or expectations.

Access to my experience and expertise to support your expansion into healthier erotic and physical intimacy.

Permission and encouragement to explore your authentic self and desires, without shame or judgement.

What that looks like

Spacious structure and clear agreements with plenty of reflection time to help integrate your physical learning.

Your pleasure, arousal and sexual expression are as welcome as your thoughts, words and feelings.

Touch may be clothed or unclothed and can encompass the whole body (including the genitals). You get to choose.

Why choose this

You want to change old habits or patterns of sex, intimacy or relating, in a way that includes your whole body.

You want to practice body to body with another man in a safely held learning container.

You want to explore and learn about your intimate self without the pressure of a hookup or relationship.

“An unmissable experience…the best part was Michael’s willingness to listen and respond to my wants as we crafted our sessions together”

Terry

"A joyful, freeing and creative process. I now have a better sense of what I want, how to communicate that, and how to create more harmonious relationships"

Huw

"Michael helped us navigate our own internal pleasure maps and learn what works and what does not work for each of us"

Dan & Ian

What's involved in conSensuality coaching?

Combining incredible one-to-one focus with spaciousness and depth, conSensuality coaching pathways are a unique opportunity for hands-on learning through experiencing.

Each 9-hour pathway offers a tailored, guided framework within which you can learn and practice skills for accessing desire, touch and pleasure in the most valuable way for you.

Sessions are structured and navigated flexibly using the 4 dynamics of touch. This enables our work together to be personalised so you can get exactly the learning and experience you need - at the same time creating as much safety as possible.

In the sessions...

You'll have time to explore 4 different types of giving and receiving. Then time to focus in more depth on the elements you'd like to deepen your practice with. Touch can encompass the whole body, including the genitals.

If you're single you'll work body to body with me; if you're a couple you'll work body to body with each other, with my guidance.

Watch the video to learn more about what's involved in a conSensuality in-person immersive.

Please also read the agreements for interactive erotic touch sessions with me.

Is it for you?

There are many reasons why you might benefit from one-to-one conSensuality coaching with me. Read these mens' stories:

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Terry's story

Coming out in later life, and feeling inexperienced

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Anders' story

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Emil's story

Finding an erotic identity beyond relationship patterns

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Dan & Ian's story

Learning how to communicate desires better

How much does it cost?

Most ConSensuality coaching sessions happen in person. My home studio is in Hastings on the south coast of England, an easy journey from London. I also offer sessions in London, Belfast, and most other major UK cities.

If it's your first time...

The first time we work together we’ll have an intake session of 90 minutes. This session can be standalone (online or in person), or part of a longer in-person immersive. This session is usually more talk-based and if touch is included it's clothed and non-erotic.

Why is an intake session important?

This first session is a chance for us both to get a feel for each other, and help you understand how you might want to move forward with future sessions.

It's a mix of discussion and practical work which will establish some important shared tools and language to help you get the most out of the rest of the work we do together.

Although it’s still tailored to what you’re coming to explore, it often follows more of a set structure and focus than other sessions.

Intake session cost:

90 minutes in-person standalone: £95

Available in Hastings. Interactive touch is possible.

90 minutes online standalone: £95

Great if you want to test the waters without leaving home, but it doesn’t include the possibility for interactive touch.

In-person immersive: £ included as part of your immersive

Available in any location. Interactive touch is possible.

Ongoing in-person coaching

As with most coaching or therapy it can take a number of sessions for real and effective change to happen. For this reason I recommend an intention to commit to at least 9 hours of coaching time when we start to work together. This can be booked in a variety of ways:

90 mins single session

 

Choose this option if smaller individual payments are a more affordable way for you to book and commit.

Available in: Hastings

Half day immersive

(3 hours)

Choose this option if you're travelling to work with me and you'd like to maximise your coaching time.

Available in: Hastings, London

Full day immersive

(6 hours)

Choose this option if you prefer to work more spaciously or you want to work with me in London

Available in Hastings, London

Personal retreat

(9 hours)

Choose this option if you want to dive deep over several days, or to work with me in a city of your choice.

Available in: Hastings, most UK cities

Cost in Hastings


90 mins: £95

3 hours: £185

6 hours: £360

Cost in London


3 hours: £216

6 hours: £414

There is also an additional venue charge which is usually around £70 - £90 per half day. I will always let you know this cost before confirming any booking.

Other UK cities


9 hours: £620

There is also an additional charge for venue and travel which is usually around £300. I will always let you know this cost before confirming any booking.

Longer bespoke retreats are available by arrangement – both within the UK and in some international locations. Price by arrangement.

Take your next steps...

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Doing this work together is a very personal experience so it's important we're a good fit.  That's why I offer a free, no-obligation Clarity Call if we haven't worked together before.

This is an informal Zoom call of up to 30 minutes. It's your opportunity to ask any questions you might have, and for me to make sure I'm able to offer what you're looking for.

Schedule a time below that suits you.

Please note: I'm taking some time out from offering in-person coaching sessions until summer 2025. However, I will be offering some online coaching sessions during this time. I'm happy to discuss the options with you on a Clarity Call in the meantime.

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