There’s often pressure for sex and intimacy between men to look a certain way: hard, fast, and penetrative.
And while that can work for some, for many it feels unsatisfying or even frustrating.
Another way is possible... the truth is: better gay sex and intimacy isn’t about trying harder – it’s about connecting deeper.
Change what's not working for you
I support gay, bi, queer and curious men who are experiencing challenges with:
Sex with men
Enjoy giving and receiving touch more
Intimacy
Access deeper and more fulfilling connections
Relationships
Shift old patterns of relating that hold you back
Masturbation
Build a healthier relationship with pleasure in your own body
Coaching with me is...
unique, grounded, compassionate hands-on learning.
Honed over more than a decade, my work is a trauma-informed blend of Sexological Bodywork, Wheel Of Consent, and Sacred Intimacy.
I work with 4 touch dynamics and 3 types of touch, combining years of training with intuitive sensitivity, creating spaces with choice and safety built in.
I'm based in Hastings on the south coast of England - a short distance from London. I offer sessions from my home studio there, as well as in London, Brighton, across the UK, and online
What's possible with me?
Find out what coaching with me involves or check out my programmes and packages that will help you transform your (love) life:
Interested? Let's talk...
If you haven't worked body to body with a gay sex and intimacy coach like me before it's completely natural to feel a mix of curiosity, uncertainty and excitement when considering it!
That's why I offer a free informal video call of up to 30 minutes - it's an opportunity to chat with me and ask questions, with no obligation.
Curious but not sure yet?
Get a feel for my work with these simple, guided practices:
10-minute audio meditation to connect with sensation
Playful PDF + video to explore desires and touch with a partner
10-minute video with 5 practical steps to heighten arousal
You’ll also receive ongoing tips and resources straight to your inbox (unsubscribe anytime).
Try a taster with me...
If you'd like to dip a toe, but you're not quite ready to jump into a full coaching package or programme, start with one of my 90-minute taster sessions (in Hastings or online) and the cost of this can be deducted from the total if you move into the full pathway.
Who do I work with?
While I use words like gay, man, and male for clarity, I know they can mean very different things for different people - and my own relationship with them is not fixed! I work mainly with people who identify as male in some way.
If you feel this is the space for you – all of you is welcome here.
"My work with Michael was transformative. Michael's great skill lies in his intuitive sense and our work together provided a gateway to a deeper connection in my body / mind"
"I can't imagine having made a better choice with my weekend. Your coaching allowed impressive learning and growth in such a short time"
If you want to feel good - learn how to feel
Tips to help you improve your pleasure, intimacy, and sex
Why slowing down is the #1 tip my clients benefit from
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Want to be a better gay lover? Get more selfish!
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4 tips for getting the most out of your masturbation
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How to improve touch during gay sex
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3 essential steps to having more pleasure
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50 shades of ‘no’ – why it’s so hard, and how to get better at it
If you struggle with expressing or hearing a ‘no’ here’s why it can feel so hard, and some practical ways you can build your skills with it for healthier relating
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How to avoid gay sex myths and have healthier sex
Do you know your gay sex myths from your gay sex facts? Where do you get your information from when it comes to healthy sex?
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The secret to better gay sex most people won’t tell you about
Practice makes perfect – the secret ingredient you’ll need if you want a better experience of gay sex and intimacy
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Want more enjoyable sex? Don’t make it so goal oriented
Focussing on outcomes (like penetration, or orgasm) can make for disappointment in the bedroom. Learn how to shift your sex from goal oriented to pleasure oriented
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I also offer non-erotic coaching for help navigating interactions and relationships with family, friends, partners, even work colleagues: www.wheelofconsent.coach
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