You wouldn't get fit just by talking about it...

why would your love life be any different?

I’m Michael Dresser, one of the UK's most unique gay sex and intimacy coaches.

I'm here to support you on a journey of better relating and deeper connection - with your own body, and with others.

Build your confidence with

Desire

Identifying and following what you want

Touch

Connecting to sensation and exploring how to feel

Pleasure

Discovering and trusting what you enjoy

Communication

Navigating desire, touch and pleasure with another man

Honed over more than a decade of ongoing training and practice, my work is a unique blend of Sexological Bodywork, Wheel Of Consent, and Sacred Intimacy.

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I work with 4 touch dynamics and 3 types of touch, combining years of training with intuitive sensitivity to create spaces with safety built in.

I'm based near the Scottish Highlands in the UK, offering sessions there, as well as Edinburgh, Belfast, London and online.

Choose how you want to work with me

I offer 3 different types of session pathway. Choose the one which suits your needs best:

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Supported self-study

Online coaching programmes. Focus on building a better relationship with pleasure in your own body

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Hands-on personal coaching

In-person immersive days. Focus on learning and practicing new approaches to touch, communication and relating when you’re body to body with another man.

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Experiential play

In-person half days. Focus on experiencing and exploring pleasure, connection and closeness in a playful one-to-one space.

Why work with with me?

In-person immersive coaching with me offers a unique opportunity for hands-on learning through experiencing:

What you get

The gift of time, care and attention from another man - free from agenda or expectations.

Access to my experience, expertise and body, to support your expansion into healthier erotic intimacy.

Permission and encouragement to explore your authentic self and desires, without shame or judgement.

What that looks like

Spacious structure and clear agreements with plenty of reflection time to help integrate your physical learning.

Your pleasure, arousal and sexual expression are as welcome as your thoughts, words and feelings.

Touch may be clothed or unclothed and can encompass the whole body (including the genitals). You get to choose.

Why choose this

You want to change old habits or patterns of sex, intimacy or relating in a way that includes your whole body.

You want to practice body to body with another man in a safely held learning container.

You want to explore and learn about your intimate self without the pressure of a hookup or relationship.

Interested? Take your next step...

If you haven't worked with a hands-on gay sex and intimacy coach like me before it's completely natural to feel a mix of curiosity, uncertainty and excitement when considering it!

That's why I offer a free informal video call of up to 30 minutes - it's an opportunity to chat with me and ask questions, with no obligation.

Learn how to do gay sex and intimacy differently

Men (especially gay men) are surrounded by a lot of pressure for their sex and intimacy to look a certain way.

Erections, ejaculation and penetration are often the main focus. If that works for you, great. But for many men that feels unsatisfying or frustrating.

What if – instead of trying to fuck harder, and longer – the route to better gay sex and intimacy was by learning how to connect truer, and deeper?

Who do I work with?

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If you're single...

I offer a safely held space where you can learn and practice new ways of intimate relating, body to body with me as your practice partner, guide and support.

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If you're a couple...

I offer a neutral, guided space where you can learn new ways to communicate and create mutually satisfying interactions with each other.

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You'll see me use the words ‘gay’, ‘man’ and 'male' on this site because they’re common terms many people I work with search for when looking for support around intimacy, touch, pleasure or sex.

And I know all those words can mean very different things for different people - my own relationship with them is not fixed.

I work mainly with people who identify as male in some way, but however you describe yourself, you are welcome here – and I hope I may be able to support you.

What is mindful sex coaching?

Mindful gay sex and intimacy coaching is about becoming more present and authentic in your intimate and erotic experiences. I can help you with connection to self, confidence with what you want, improved relationships, deeper pleasure, better sex ... and much more.

"My work with Michael was transformative.  Michael's great skill lies in his intuitive sense and our work together provided a gateway to a deeper connection in my body / mind"

"I can't imagine having made a better choice with my weekend. Your coaching allowed impressive learning and growth in such a short time"

"Michael is a wonderful facilitator. He creates a safe space so I completely trusted him and could relax ... I benefited immensely from what I learnt and what I felt"

Upcoming workshops

Opportunities to learn with me as part of a group. (Click the images for more information and to book)

If you want to feel good - learn how to feel

Tips to help you improve your pleasure, intimacy, and sex

How to improve touch during gay sex

Improve the quality of your touch during gay sex by understanding the 4 key types of touch (bonus: you already know how to do them!)

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3 essential steps to having more pleasure

There are 3 essentials you need if you want more pleasure in the bedroom. But you may be surprised at what they are…

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50 shades of ‘no’ – why it’s so hard, and how to get better at it

If you struggle with expressing or hearing a ‘no’ here’s why it can feel so hard, and some practical ways you can build your skills with it for healthier relating

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How to avoid gay sex myths and have healthier sex

Do you know your gay sex myths from your gay sex facts? Where do you get your information from when it comes to healthy sex?

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The secret to better gay sex most people won’t tell you about

Practice makes perfect – the secret ingredient you’ll need if you want a better experience of gay sex and intimacy

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Want more enjoyable sex? Don’t make it so goal oriented

Focussing on outcomes (like penetration, or orgasm) can make for disappointment in the bedroom. Learn how to shift your sex from goal oriented to pleasure oriented

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Why gay guys need to get better at conscious consent

Sex is an important part of the gay experience – but conscious consent can often be lacking. Here’s how to change that

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4 steps to create intimacy through non-sexual touch

Touch and sex are not the same thing – although they often get conflated. Follow these 4 steps to create more intimacy using touch that’s sensual but non-sexual.

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Enjoy gay touch more – why touching for pleasure can be harder than it sounds

Find out why touching another man can feel so complicated, and get 5 simple tips for how you can experience more pleasure when you’re touching

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What’s a bossy massage – and why is it so liberating?

This is not massage as you know it! Find out more about this deeply nourishing way to receive touch – where your pleasure is the only focus, and your body is the only expert!

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